Who knocks at my peace with no keys to my soul?

[impersona]

Mostly just posting something to indicate that yes, I do live.  I've just been uberwonky as of late, and inconsistent and ADD and etc.

Fanime made me so happy ;_;  It's one thing to have an online network of patently awesome people, but it is another thing to actually see the people and interact with them.  Plus, looking at all of the beautiful cosplaying is forever my favorite part of Fanime itself.  

I did come to a conclusion afterwards though - I need to make more of an effort to make more friends IRL.  That sounds very terrible but it is true.  I object to making friends with co-workers because I'm not interested in people at work knowing too much about my private business, so I have to find other outlets and other ways to connect with people offline.  I found a knitting shop that is nice to sit and chill at, and I have to look more into finding more interest-based networks. 

HERPA DERP, FRIENDS <3

I should have pictures of pretty knitted things I made later this week <3  including a shrug and some mitts.  

Comments

[thez]

HA HA, why is that awful? It's probably a good idea! Just be prepared for it to take some time. I read a study that says it takes on average two years for a person to rebuild their social circle after they move. I found that to be pretty much spot on when I moved to Tucson, and it's not shaping up to be any easier out here.

[impersona]

It's awful because I'm used to being made fun of by my family for having no friends, so I have a lot of insecurity and guilt tied to the topic of friendships XD So I guess I've come to be upset at myself for not being able to make friends easily. BUT that study about needing two years is actually really awesome, and makes me feel a good deal better, especially since it's been like five years since I started moving around to different places.

[thez]

Yeah, moving around a lot is not really conductive to forming lasting friendships, so you shouldn't feel bad about that at all. I do have one piece of advice, and that's to possibly reevaluate your position on no coworker friendships, because coworkers can often turn into great friends. Maybe if you find yourself at a job where you feel more at home and like what you do you might be less adverse to the idea? I can see you being reluctant to connect to coworkers if you're in a job that makes you miserable, and sometimes even in a great job you just won't click with each other. The knitting group is a really great idea, though!

[industrialfairytale]

The knitting shop that was next to me at the Steampunk con? They seemed like nice folks :-)

And its important to have friends AROUND where you are, because people on the internet cannot go to the movies with you, or to the park, or to downtown SF wearing silly hats....

[industrialfairytale]

Also - read that as 'underwonky' and was all WELL GET BACK TO NORMAL WONKY LEVEL THEN!

[impersona]

THEY WERE THE STEAMPUNK KNITTING PEOPLE. They are really awesome, actually, and I can't wait to chill out there a little bit more. They have late-night Friday knitting too, which would be fun to sit in on.

[tatterpixie]

That doesn't sound terrible at all! Like Fyre said, it's all well and good to have friends with whom you interact IRL on those rare occasions you're all in the same place at the same time, but there's nothing like having a regular localcrew to run with. <3

[impersona]

More terrible in that I often feel ashamed at how slowly I do make friends, and how few I tend to have XD But I think just having a few people I can call up and talk to in the area will be nice, and make me feel more grounded in this area.

[ru]

I agree with everyone, it's not at all terrible! <3 Having RL friends is awesome for lunch dates and movies and going to fun local events and the like. The knitting shop is a great place to start!

(Also eeee knitting photos can't wait to see how they turned out! <3 <3 <3)

[impersona]

YOUR ICON IS ADORABLE BTW.

I can't wait to show you the knitting! When K was here, she helped me a lot with the shrug, and she expressed jealousy in that my knitting is very much on-gauge and even.

http://craftylittlesewnsew.wordpress.com/2010/08/26/free-knitting-pattern-fable-mitts/ This is the mitt pattern - they are really really cute and very easy to knit up, so it might become my go-to Christmas gift this year :D

[mindsplinters]

I agree with everyone else. It is important to have some RL friends, too. It balances everything and it's good to have people you can see and do more spontaneous things with. Movies and dinner and all that. Even if it's just a handful, they're important.

... Which means I should call Shannon and Jeni and Debi and stop being a work/internet eaten doof. *facepalm*

Anyway, you're an awesome person online and off. You'll find some fleshy folks to hang with. <3

[impersona]

Tell them I said hi if you see them!

Yeah, I think having more IRL friends will help me out with my various confidence and insecurity issues too. Plus, it'll help me fill out a kinetic and social gap that I do feel, and I really should be using my twenties to get out there and really mix in with others.

Thank you ;_;